“Believe me when I say we have a difficult time ahead of us. But if we are to be prepared for it, we must first shed our fear of it. I stand here, before you now, truthfully unafraid. Why? Because I believe something you do not? No, I stand here without fear because I remember. I remember that I am here, not because of the path that lies before me, but because of the path that lies behind me. I remember that for 100 years we have fought these machines. I remember that for 100 years they have sent their armies to destroy us. And after a century of war, I remember that which matters most… WE ARE STILL HERE!” -Morpheus, The Matrix Reloaded

A Lesson In Keeping a Positive Attitude

Recently, my uncle passed away and I attended the funeral this past weekend. You know, it’s never a good time to have a relative pass on. But it can be particularly difficult around the holidays when families are getting together to celebrate.

When the end of the service approached, all of the participants began streaming out of the church. That’s when I noticed an older woman sitting in the pew in front of me. My cousin was sitting next to her and he asked if she needed any assistance. She replied that she was going to be fine.

As the congregation thinned out, I noticed her walker. I then followed up on my cousin’s offer to the older woman, asking if she needed any assistance. Again, she replied that she had everything under control.

As I was leaving, she grabbed my arm and said, “I do appreciate the offer. But you know, I’ve been to France, Italy, and Greece. If I can find my way around another country, I think I can manage to get out of a church in my hometown.”

Her statement left me amazed. When many people are looking to get someone else to do their heavy lifting, here was an older woman who valued her independence. She also had a number of resources at her disposal, and she tied them together with a strong, positive attitude. We often don’t think about our memories and experiences as useful resources, but that’s what they are. And they are at our disposal to enhance our current experiences.

Session 3 of the Dale Carnegie Course Uses Achievements To Boost Your Positive Attitude

In the Dale Carnegie Course, we help participants exercise their flexibility and think outside the box.  Session 3 of the program consists of exercises where we help participants recognize their past achievements. We coach them to realize that they have done good work in the past.  And they can leverage those experiences and memories to assist them in their future endeavors.

I left the church that morning feeling uplifted. I had the pleasure of meeting a determined woman. Here was someone who was profoundly aware of her capabilities and she knew what she could do with them.

We should all be as fortunate to have that same positive attitude when we reach her age.